You wake up in the morning, early because, even if you work from home, you meet with your team first thing in the morning to discuss a significant issue.
You don't like getting up early, so you get up in a bad mood because you're frustrated by not being able to decide when to get up.
The meeting has arrived, and there is a change of plans: a large part of the work done during the last two weeks has to be reworked... in 5 days.
Inside you are in a very high level of stress, in addition to the annoyance of getting up early, a change of plans has just joined that upsets you all week, you have to do a lot of things again and, on top of that, on the run.
Only phrases like "always the same", "this cannot be like this", "if I already said it", etc., go through your head.
You spend the day with visible anger, and almost better not to talk to you.
Do you know what Stoics like Marcus Aurelius, Epictetus or Seneca would tell you?
"Don't fight battles you can't win."
Focus on what you control, do it the best you can and assume with great mastery and emotional intelligence what you cannot change.
Take it philosophically (stoic)
Think about it.
What is the point of fighting a battle that is already lost? Are you going to change anything real with it? Do you fight for your pride? Is your life or your day going to get better or somewhat worse?
Applied to the example above…
What is the point of spending the day frustrated with what happened? Will the situation change anything? Will your work improve, or will it worsen? Otherwise, will you feel better? You can spend the day with a huge hassle and do everything reluctantly.
Or you can assume that it is not a desirable situation.
But it is an opportunity to review the processes and create a plan to avoid these situations (e.g. Risk Management Plan)
Also, to do even better what requires an improvement plan (from your retrospective sessions and post-mortem analysis)
It may even be that this "bad luck" change is the seed of Good Luck and a new and better project that makes a difference to your team and, therefore, your leadership.
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